Recently I attended the 70th wedding anniversary celebrations of my 90 year old aunt and she was dressed to kill-her hair done up in a bun, tiny solitaires in her ears, a touch of lipstick and rouge(as she calls blusher)-in a beautifully draped Kanjeevaram silk saree. Her […]
Since all of us, children, grandchildren, great grandchildren, nephews, nieces, grand nephews and the entire noisy lot was celebrating with her, we asked her to talk about her marriage.
She shared some beautiful insights on what she calls a ‘roller coaster partnership’.
Marriage is a destination yet a journey-When we think of marriage as a destination we just stop trying to make it work because we feel we have arrived and this is the end. But when we view it as a journey, then we look at it as ongoing, so we always have something to look forward to, so we keep trying to make things better. This can range from keeping our chin up even when the chips are down, to even dressing up to cheer up yourself or your spouse or maybe both of you. The important thing is, to keep the marriage alive and kicking as a living entity and not as a dull boring dead end destination.
“To keep the marriage alive and kicking as a living entity”
Psycho-Social Support- Any marriage has its share of ups and downs and sometimes it can be a bit overwhelming. My aunt said, “My husband was extremely wealthy when we got married, but became bankrupt and that’s the time I turned to my circle of friends and family for support. It wasn’t a question of borrowing money but speaking with them that helped reduce the enormity of the catastrophe”.